A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

When I came out of the nursing home and came to my house I thought I would just resume life as it was before I did not realise how much confidence I had lost until I wanted to put some washing in the machine and it was three weeks before I had the courage to do it but that's partly because of my poor eyesight quite soon I bought a new machine but I also need to buy any cooker and I have not yet done that sometimes I feel my mind or my will is paralysed also the neighbors acted differently towards me or I acted differently towards them but we did not just slip back into the friendships we had before until yesterday more than two years after I came home I met one of my kindest and most pleasant neighbors and we had a good conversation sitting on the wall

I lear ned from my experiences in the nursing home especially those I had with two very old ladies with dementia but also with a lot of personality as well. one of them said to me if only I could have visitors who didn't keep talking I would just like to have someone there like my son in the room but not constantly talking. I was glad that I was able to be with her for an hour and a half on her last day of life. she was conscious but in severe pain and I sat by her until the nurse asked me to to leave because they had to wash her when I got to the door she said say goodnight everyone it was only 3:30 in the afternoon but I did what she wanted as I said on her behalf goodnight everyone good night it was a great privilege to know this Welsh school teacher who was a mother of three children the other woman was more about their affected by dementia I learnt from observation and experience that I could communicate with a much better if I was present snd fully aware of my own body. you c...