A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

The face that was familiar is erased And now I feel the emptiness within A lonely heart,a mind that seems half crazed By losing him,how greatly have I sinned? The face so dear, seemed etched upon my heart I did not see the writing on the wall Now my heart is blank, how shall I start? Never love another in this life? Measure Mathematics on a chart? Learn the poet’s worth yet feel the knife? The dagger in the heart, the loss of blood Anaemic, faint and weak, where shall we go? Like the chained up slaves felt, where is good? The Arctic wastes of life, the frost the snow. I smile and look contented , understood My patient hands alone now sweat with blood

Peoplr who are not children are expected to be and expect themselves to be the agent of their own life. They decide what they do as far as they can given them out of money especially they have and given the people they are involved with. until recently in England a woman who got married was expected to do whatever husband wanted to dlo. if you are in in Nursing home can you be the agent of your own life? if you have sold your moved into the Nottingham family you've already made a very big decision. but you should make more like what are you going to do every day question mark Do you have interest in hobbies. are you going to pursue them are you waiting passively for the staff to tell you what to do or you're waiting for the staff to become your friends and then complain if they dont sut with your old hair long nursing homes are businesses. they don't employ a lot of staff and the staff are there mainly to the gifted the physical health conversations and to keep them clean

Even if you say that you will comb your own hair the nurse will still be say,dont forgwt. I think being put in that helps us position every day is a cause of depression. see Martin Seligman's book,Learned helplessness. depression is very dangerous as it will reduce your interest in things and your energy levels and so on but as long as you are clean and your room is tidy as nd ckean that is it as far as the staff are concerned

Tom has gone to stay in a nursing home because he has unable to walk but will be able to walk again in tim2 but he's also got a problem with his kidneys and he is having dialysis Next to him Lady of approximately 97. She likes to go around and say goodnight to everyone. Since the New Year she's been going to come round more and more frequently. She has been a nuisance to me and I am normally  a very patient person. She came to my room more than 30 times in one evening between 5 and 8 p.m. She came in when I was naked. Then she came in after I turnevd the lights out. She frightened me, Although I'm begging her not to come she refuses to to do what I want. So 8 p.m. I put a heavy chair behind my door. She's bothered the woman in the next room to me bed bound and she's been boring this man that I mentioned called Tom  I heard him in half an hour ago shouting so I went through my door and looked and he was shouting at someone in the dining room which turn out to be the