A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

I have been writing mainly about the bad side of nursing homes. but the love was probably greater than the unkindness and the cruelty.Of course most people don't think the way that I do Some of the individual carers and nurses were exceptionally good. Not just what they did but the manner in which they did it. We should all help by visiting our relatives or becoming a visitor to those who have no relatives because we need to keep the old frail people in our minds and hearts an really in our communities

if you do it like going into nursing homes or care homes why not join a befriending service. and visit soneone or some charities do it by telephone. so you would ring one person probably an old person once a week to say half an hour and just let them chat to you and as they get to know you it will be nice for the very kind. it makes a very big difference to people to have someone to talk to although men are worthless it than women so I'm not sure what the answer is because men die younger. or just be more friendly to people in your street and say hello or how are you when you pass them don't just ignore them I have seen an old man cry because he said good morning to a young neighbour and she didn't reply because she was very introverted and lived in a dreamworld of her own.

I always thought my daughter was stupid but she's sutpassef herself this week She was born when I was 25 and now she is in the secondary school because she turned 12. Well she was off school one day last week but I didn't know that she was playing hooky. The next day she told the teacher that she had this home with me because I was suffering from dementia so I had to lie down with a cold compress on my head. well there is early onset dementia but I am only 37 and I've not even reached the menopause yet. But the teacher believed her on the headmistress is going to someone see me tomorrow and find out whether I'm having any treatment. I'll give her some treatment if she comes here as she will not come back again

E Edna is alone in the dining room with the doors open so we said all hear her shouting she shouts the same phrase repeatedly help me help me what is sl the message for the other people nearby? in 10 years this might be you unless you stop paying your fees and then you might be living in the tent in a field somewhere better for you? I believe that nasty people live longer and even when they found and showed themselves they should make other people miserable but why do homers say they take people with dementia when they don't actually do anything for them? sometimes I hear them saying, we don't do one to one's hair in here. How the feeling and la lack of feeling and thought show me another ways see the next post or twob or jump into the nearest River. you will get more help there than you will in here

There is a lady of 100 here. she has got immensely and she shouts and screams for most of the day although if someone is talking to her she stops screaming. it's upsets the carers as well so one of them just told me but the thing is they go home in the evening and we don't go home in the evening and sometimes all night as well and then luckily that's worn us and sleep for a long time but in the meantime because I'm not feeling very good myself to day I'm feeling very sad. I hear her screaming even when my door is closed. She can talk rationally but she wants things that she can't get like she wants to go outside in the garden but she can't walk so she has to go in a wheelchair which needs two people to manage and since it's often only two carers on duty it is very rare that she can go outside unless summer I don't think I went outside more than once partly because it was too hot but when it wasn't too I would have liked her outside but I would ha

I find it hard that staff say but they will come and talk to me in five minutes and then they do not come and when it's something important and that is very upsetting. constantly waiting and if you are anxious is very hard. and then we can feel as if we are of no value or no importance to anybody at all because even when my neighbours daughter comes and she knows that something is wrong she speaks or writes to the manager or the deputy manager but nothing happens so she gives up despair can set in, once a new nursre came to my room and she said to me Gosh this room shows you are alive with your books and you r laptop your artwork and she said for many of the people this is if they're dead the room so clean and neat. and I have thought the same thing. when a carer just straighten my bed when I was bed bound she told me off for making the sheet crumpled by moving. I said I am moving because I am alive if I stopped moving I would be dead.

https://www.grosvenorlodgehove.co.uk/care/lifting-the-stigma-on-elderly-care ois a fact of life, from the moment we are born, we start getting older and if we are lucky enough to live to an old age, it is likely we may come to a point where we can no longer care properly for ourselves and we may need some extra support. And yet this is something none of us want to admit or even think about, but if we are all going to need it, why is there such a stigma around elderly care and what can we do to change future perspective? Perhaps, by thinking negatively about getting old and frail and not being able to look after ourselves we are the problem. Constantly in the media and movies, people in older age are depicted negatively, whether it’s as a burden to the family, or someone who is unable to look after themselves, the older generations do not get painted in a good light. And yet so many of us are staying healthy and active into our older years and nothing like the old frail image portr

Why don't the staff meet our eyes times we are treated as less than fully human. The first visit to our room in the morning will be the night Nurse. She will bring early morning medication. At this time possibly 6 am it's likely We will not have seen anyone since 8:30 the night before and if you haven't slept that's a very long time to be alone. So you want some human contact just someone's eyes looking at you and meeting your eyes not necessarily any conversation. But they are keen to get on with their work and they don't want to engage with any individual that's my interpretation of it so they don't actually make themselves present in the room for even 2 or 3 minutes. So when they leave sometimes we feel very sad because you won't see anybody else until we get a cup of tea at maybe 7 am That's the most obvious lack but it can happen in the daytime as well that somebody is with you is he might even wash you but they don't actually yo