A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

Some of the resident do get visitor s and sometimes they're relative wants to complain that the carers are not caring enough. but there's a confusion here between what kind of care you are talking about. the characters are there to this after the physical well-being cleanliness and food for the patients. They're paid a relatively low wage for so called women's work. extremely kind and good. but the carers are not cyclist therapists or social workers and they cantprovide a social life for the residents. it's the managers who decide on the number of staff probably as low as possible to get the work done do you think it's a vocation to be a carer? is there a Catholic nuns in a religious order then there may be a rotation but women getting work which fits in with family commitments is very difficult and then they're do this work because they want they need the money but basically the management has to do what they're told by the owners. this economic s

class="separator" style="clear: both;"> One of the patients here has got quite bad dementia and she is 100 year old and sometimes she screams and shouts saying I want to go home They ignore her because they think they know what she means because she used to have her own house.l they think she wants to go back to her house which is impossible because you can't walk but I have discovered that she doesn't mean that She means that she's forgotten where she is and she knows she should be in a place with a certain name let's say Edinburgh House so I say to her so you want to go to Edinburgh House do? then she says yes I say to her well you're in Edinburgh house now oh then it's all right for me to go to sleep she says and I say yes it's quite alright to go to sleep now because you are in the right place.Molly. she closes her eyes and she stopped screaming and she falls asleep everybody's delighted but this thinking would apply to othe

The face I loved to contemplate is gone The image dwel ls no longer in my mind I once was sad to see it when I woke Now I’m even sadder by mind blind All perceptions fade if not renewed The ones we loved the most still disappear Perhaps when we’re asleep then they return We are passive though our love’s sincere As I grow old, I lose their shape and form Yes I see the smile before he died. I helped him to the river and the boat Now he Is no longer by m

The face that was familiar is erased And now I feel the emptiness within A lonely heart,a mind that seems half crazed By losing him,how greatly have I sinned? The face so dear, seemed etched upon my heart I did not see the writing on the wall Now my heart is blank, how shall I start? Never love another in this life? Measure Mathematics on a chart? Learn the poet’s worth yet feel the knife? The dagger in the heart, the loss of blood Anaemic, faint and weak, where shall we go? Like the chained up slaves felt, where is good? The Arctic wastes of life, the frost the snow. I smile and look contented , understood My patient hands alone now sweat with blood

Peoplr who are not children are expected to be and expect themselves to be the agent of their own life. They decide what they do as far as they can given them out of money especially they have and given the people they are involved with. until recently in England a woman who got married was expected to do whatever husband wanted to dlo. if you are in in Nursing home can you be the agent of your own life? if you have sold your moved into the Nottingham family you've already made a very big decision. but you should make more like what are you going to do every day question mark Do you have interest in hobbies. are you going to pursue them are you waiting passively for the staff to tell you what to do or you're waiting for the staff to become your friends and then complain if they dont sut with your old hair long nursing homes are businesses. they don't employ a lot of staff and the staff are there mainly to the gifted the physical health conversations and to keep them clean

I do not think it's a good idea for people to the segregated by age. do my surprise I have discovered that it is a very modern development beginning with the industrial Revolution says that ultimately would lead to older people being put into homes so the the younger adults could work in factors and mills and coal mines. and now it's gone even further to use women in the workforce it's become almost normal for even the mothers of young babies to go back to work in a few weeks. you might you could explain that by the price of houses but it isn't just that. they want to get all the adults between let's say 16 and 70 into work so the children and the babies are with childminders or schools and the old people are in homes like leopards on the edge of the community cared for by lowly paid women sometimey show a great deal of love. personally I found it very difficult being in a place with several demented people because they do not have enough staff to give them the ca

Even if you say that you will comb your own hair the nurse will still be say,dont forgwt. I think being put in that helps us position every day is a cause of depression. see Martin Seligman's book,Learned helplessness. depression is very dangerous as it will reduce your interest in things and your energy levels and so on but as long as you are clean and your room is tidy as nd ckean that is it as far as the staff are concerned

I find it hard that staff say but they will come and talk to me in five minutes and then they do not come and when it's something important and that is very upsetting. constantly waiting and if you are anxious is very hard. and then we can feel as if we are of no value or no importance to anybody at all because even when my neighbours daughter comes and she knows that something is wrong she speaks or writes to the manager or the deputy manager but nothing happens so she gives up despair can set in, once a new nursre came to my room and she said to me Gosh this room shows you are alive with your books and you r laptop your artwork and she said for many of the people this is if they're dead the room so clean and neat. and I have thought the same thing. when a carer just straighten my bed when I was bed bound she told me off for making the sheet crumpled by moving. I said I am moving because I am alive if I stopped moving I would be dead.

https://www.grosvenorlodgehove.co.uk/care/lifting-the-stigma-on-elderly-care ois a fact of life, from the moment we are born, we start getting older and if we are lucky enough to live to an old age, it is likely we may come to a point where we can no longer care properly for ourselves and we may need some extra support. And yet this is something none of us want to admit or even think about, but if we are all going to need it, why is there such a stigma around elderly care and what can we do to change future perspective? Perhaps, by thinking negatively about getting old and frail and not being able to look after ourselves we are the problem. Constantly in the media and movies, people in older age are depicted negatively, whether it’s as a burden to the family, or someone who is unable to look after themselves, the older generations do not get painted in a good light. And yet so many of us are staying healthy and active into our older years and nothing like the old frail image portr

Why don't the staff meet our eyes times we are treated as less than fully human. The first visit to our room in the morning will be the night Nurse. She will bring early morning medication. At this time possibly 6 am it's likely We will not have seen anyone since 8:30 the night before and if you haven't slept that's a very long time to be alone. So you want some human contact just someone's eyes looking at you and meeting your eyes not necessarily any conversation. But they are keen to get on with their work and they don't want to engage with any individual that's my interpretation of it so they don't actually make themselves present in the room for even 2 or 3 minutes. So when they leave sometimes we feel very sad because you won't see anybody else until we get a cup of tea at maybe 7 am That's the most obvious lack but it can happen in the daytime as well that somebody is with you is he might even wash you but they don't actually yo

many people in nursing homes I'm just waiting to die. actually said to me I want to die I wish I could die. one begged me to kill hrr don't put your telative in one of these places is absolutely impossible to care for them at home. o

Lady was screaming. She is 100 years old that she has a severe spinal problem at the base. She is only giving painkillers don't always seem to work very well and she's an extrovert so she likes to see people, don't we all. I mentioned her to one of the staff as you said to me oh don't worry about her she only wants attention. Like she only wants air and water 

Yes some days the screaming is less affecting. Those who weep seem to be comforted. The staff more relaxed. Annoying things are een as humorous. Spring is in the air. Someone bring me some snowdrops Someone brings me a chocolate eclair I had a poor appetite but it's better and enjoy this cake. But it's still boring exit when I start writing poems or one of my friends writes. Something isn't right in the morning but before lunch something shift inside me and I feel as if I am standing on stable ground again All is right with the world