A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

You can watch the television all day if you want to. You can listen to the radio. if you can't walk by yourself then you're very restricted because there are staff to take you into the garden or to do something with you and what most people seem to miss the most is conversatio, having a chat with somebody talking to somebody but it's got to be either someone they know and trust and love or someone very imaginative. good even if it's a poor quality of life it takes a lot of courage to get out if that is feasible for on the other hand there was a woman there when I was there and she was only there because she broken her more leg so obviously it was time limited but she was frightened of going home and at the same time she was angry about the large bill she was paying I think it's being alone at night that frightens people but it's so much nicer to sleep in your own bed and in my case I got a new bed. and I got a wool duve and new pillows. if you don't feel co...

You can go home from a nursing home even if you've been there for more than a year. Why would you want to go home? Being helpless is conducive to bring along depression. and although there may be a choice of food this is not very wide. we were given pork several times a week probably because it's the cheapest meat that you can buy but if you're not very keen on pork it's trying. I lost several kilos while I was in the nursing home because if I couldn't eat what was offered there was nothing else sometimes there wasn't even so when you go home you can choose your own food etc however you will have become institutionalized that means that you are used to letting other people tell you what to do including washing you and dressing you and probably choosing your clothes for you and you don't deal with your own doctor yourself they ring the doctor if they're thinking it's necessary which is fine when you've got dementia m but if you don't have de...

i was in the hospital with acute coronary syndrome in 2006 when I was 61. but I do not have coronary artery disease. I have a rare condition called variant angina which is caused by the artery going into a spasm similar to what happens with migraine in the head. I was put on some medication and one thing I had to carry with me always was something called gnt spray. you spray under your tongues if you get chest pain and it dilates the arteries it is also used to make bombs probably what you get from the spray is not as strong as a bomb or it would kill you. when I have been here for eight months I said to the nurse I would like to speak to the doctor about my medications because they had reduced one of my medications called a calcium channel blocker which is the treatment for variant angins all of a sudden one afternoonp they took my spray because someone in management had told them that I did not have a heart condition but that I suffer from anxiety. you can buy a gtn spray over t...

w We need a different word from carer are we also need to have some basic psychological intervention or training. in communication that you should look at someone and speak to them not speak at them. speaking up someone particularly trying to dominate them can be damaging and it achieves very little. in fact it's insulting. the fact that very few people in this country including the government can actually talk to someone rather than talk at all of us with no understanding is very very bad and I'm really sorry about it because I think it does damage. in winnicotion terms as discussed by Josephine Klein it can be an impingement on people particularly people did not have a good infancy. impingements wound and damaged people. when we talk to someone we hope to meet them not to wound them into silence. it's not surprising that it's easy to act in a sadistic manner without realising it fully. when someone is suffering from dementia as well they have no protection from jnki...

Peoplr who are not children are expected to be and expect themselves to be the agent of their own life. They decide what they do as far as they can given them out of money especially they have and given the people they are involved with. until recently in England a woman who got married was expected to do whatever husband wanted to dlo. if you are in in Nursing home can you be the agent of your own life? if you have sold your moved into the Nottingham family you've already made a very big decision. but you should make more like what are you going to do every day question mark Do you have interest in hobbies. are you going to pursue them are you waiting passively for the staff to tell you what to do or you're waiting for the staff to become your friends and then complain if they dont sut with your old hair long nursing homes are businesses. they don't employ a lot of staff and the staff are there mainly to the gifted the physical health conversations and to keep them clean...

I find it hard that staff say but they will come and talk to me in five minutes and then they do not come and when it's something important and that is very upsetting. constantly waiting and if you are anxious is very hard. and then we can feel as if we are of no value or no importance to anybody at all because even when my neighbours daughter comes and she knows that something is wrong she speaks or writes to the manager or the deputy manager but nothing happens so she gives up despair can set in, once a new nursre came to my room and she said to me Gosh this room shows you are alive with your books and you r laptop your artwork and she said for many of the people this is if they're dead the room so clean and neat. and I have thought the same thing. when a carer just straighten my bed when I was bed bound she told me off for making the sheet crumpled by moving. I said I am moving because I am alive if I stopped moving I would be dead.

if you have your own room you may believe that you are got privacy. I had one drawer which I was using for my private things when several times clean it eithe how to empty 8 onto my bed without asking my permission when I was on the grounds that there might be some crumbs in it. this time while I was out of the room because they wanted to clean the floor really but when I went back we are turning all my positions not including my codes fortunately and they put books notebooks pens spectacles jewellery all jumped on my bed to anyone at all to see and cleaning woman and took out my private drawer and was about empty it onto the bed. play I was left to put everything back and during the following night I became ill with severe chest infection and I'm still ill now. I find it extremely intrusive and I never believed that no one could have the right to go through my personal belongings without me being there or without my permission. I felt assaulted. I had not realised how far they wo...

Lady was screaming. She is 100 years old that she has a severe spinal problem at the base. She is only giving painkillers don't always seem to work very well and she's an extrovert so she likes to see people, don't we all. I mentioned her to one of the staff as you said to me oh don't worry about her she only wants attention. Like she only wants air and water