A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

What I talk about here is true of many places that we meet other people we can relate to people with loving kindness we can relate by power which is a force to which one party is subjected to by the other. So if it's a Matron from the NHS talking to someone who's in a Care Home there is an imbalance of power. this makes it easier for the matron to take control of the conversation. Now when that happened to me the person said something very unkind but it was not just what she said it was the way that she said it. when I told her later that I have been very hurt by the conversations she said that it hurts to know the truth. If she thought that she was telling me some important truth there is no evidence of that in that particular conversation. she may have been lying when to talk about telling me the truth.Or what I heard was not what she thought that she was saying. since she was saying cruel things and I was not then I imagine she felt very gratified by stamping her foot o

Torture in a nursing home On Thursday 24 June 2022 the nurse here in Churn House said my BP was still too high and I lay down to restThe morning nurse burst in shouting and glaring said to me that I don't have angina and tricked me into giving her my GTN spray and said I could not have it though initially she said she would bring it back i have had angina 16 years and told to keep this on me always by all my previous doctors as it is unstable angina She said the night nurse would not give it to me even if I get chest pain This is torture. So what were they playing at? I was terrified.I cried so much it was painful and lonely This doctor had never even spoken to me Did they think I was lying. I don't think they know what angina is The same day the doctor sent a prescription to Boots for the same thing So within an hour they agreed I did have angina but Churn Bounce did not know And it came here but they would not give it to me. As often nobody comes when I ring the buzzer

Making us feel more helpless is bad for us. Also it can make people angry and they will take it out on the staff even when they were not there at the time when it happened I suspect that in the hospital it is much more disturbing because any kind of passive submission can cause depression this can worsen the health problems and I would say in the old depression could cause earlier death.However some of the residents would not mind dying sooner

I have come to realise miscommunication is much more common than I thought and one of the main reasons for this is quite simple. When we speak to someone we think that they will hear exactly what we say. But what we say is filtered by personaity our voice our tone or accent but more importantly by what the other person can allow into their head. When I was in the hospital my sister told me that she'd been told that I would never be able to walk again.But when I asked the staff I found she had not been told that at all so the Sister who spoke to her believe that she has said I would be able to walk again but no better than I was previously because of the arthritis. but my sister heard unless she was lying she heard that I would never be able to walk again although I have not had a stroke or anything else that nature it seems to be caused by low blood pressure on standing. I was very ill with something else an infection which I had for quite a long time before I went to the hospi

I wonder if I am allowed to use the word hermaphrodite on blogger. the Times newspaper is getting rather heavily censored in the comments

Why am I thinking about original sin in? No one talks about sin nowadays do though nor about evil and yet in the last 120 years we had two terrible world wars we had the Holocaust we had Stalin not to mention the other more recent tragedies The human beings can be involved in evil matters. What original sin was meant to be something that babies were born with something to do is sex being evil according to Santa Augustin of Hppo. . So what is the problem? Well I have a different explanation. Someone born into the economic system presently in Britain will be better off the many babies are in other parts of the world. Yet the staff in care homes are not able to do their job with 100% satisfaction because the prime purpose of this care home is to make money for the owners and in order to make money you've got to charge a certain fee but not so high that no one will those who afford it with high enough to make a profit. Well you can do this by having the minimum number of staff

Many nursing homes on pri vates. businesses are tun to make a profit. the places with a few ca rers as possible. puts some great burden on the carers. they feel a vocation to their work but if they have too many people to look after then they cannot do it to their own satisfaction. is this week there's been a shortage of clean sheets. they have to work withi constraints. this will lead to dissatisfaction. sometimes they say something a little bit rude like someone only wants attention but surely it's a good thing to want to tension those who give up will probably die sooner0 width5647.png"/> see

I'm Everyone must be treated with respect, not just in care homes. the general level of cruelty towards others must diminish throughout society. Everyone who is old or has disabilities must be treated with great care. Kindness and patience can be learned and practised. Kindness will be greatly enhanced simply my stopping being unkind. Stop putting other people down for your own pleasure. The first step is to become less unthinkingly cruel

ac According to the article I posted about nursing home problems in the United States their estimate that one in six people in a nursing home has been subject to abuse. It can be emotional psychological, physical and financial is also not unusual in families. but if you put your relative into a nursing home thinking that you're doing the best thing possible for them unless you keep an eye on them by visiting regularly you do not know what is going on and even if they themselves realize is wrong, they may be afraid or nervous of what they can do. sometimes it's not the people in the nursing home are abusing them: in the United Kingdom people in private nursing homes supervised by the local NHS community team.The highest ranking people there are the matrons. and I should know because I have been abused by a Matron if you look vulnerable or theyre in a bad temper it's very easy for them to vent their rage on you. I should know because it's happened to me personally. i

Shouting "help" a lot may be demented but what the person wants may be normal especially a wish to go into the garden or a wish for company. It can be traunatic being so dependent on others.