There is a lady here with dementia and she walked round and round the building a lot At the beginning she walk around just ones and said goodnight to everybody After is Christmas she started doing it 3 times 4 times 5 times and eventually one day she came to my room 30 times to say goodnight and she'll say him to ask me to lend her some pyjamas which I could not do. When we try to stop her from coming round she can get quite angry. There's another lady the same age she's not got dementia but she subs and cries a good deal and she can't walk by herself she has to have a carer or two hairs help her to get out of bed into a chair. She has got very distressed with the woman called Edna and goes round and round say goodnight afraid of her On Saturday I was with the second lady let's call her Magus huge

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