Living with other people but having no community

A care home is a very strange place when people live close to each other like students living in a hall of residence nurses working in a hospital used to often share a combination when they were training. image of the circumstances P eoplewould start to chat to each other. when you can scarcely walk without assistance you can't venture very far and when you are old you would most likely prefer familiar faces so you are near people but you cannot easily make friends with them you cannot make friends easily .aThere is a mixture of isolation and intrusiveness. Anybody who wants to can walk into your room without your permission They like to leave the door open so they can keep an eye on you when they walk past without actually having to speak to you.

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