A lot to think about : Wandering through a Care Home

I lear ned from my experiences in the nursing home especially those I had with two very old ladies with dementia but also with a lot of personality as well. one of them said to me if only I could have visitors who didn't keep talking I would just like to have someone there like my son in the room but not constantly talking. I was glad that I was able to be with her for an hour and a half on her last day of life. she was conscious but in severe pain and I sat by her until the nurse asked me to to leave because they had to wash her when I got to the door she said say goodnight everyone it was only 3:30 in the afternoon but I did what she wanted as I said on her behalf goodnight everyone good night it was a great privilege to know this Welsh school teacher who was a mother of three children the other woman was more about their affected by dementia I learnt from observation and experience that I could communicate with a much better if I was present snd fully aware of my own body. you c...

looking back what this experience in the nursing home seemed like it was like being caught in a Giant mouse trap or it was like being under a bell jar as in the novel by Sylvia plath the carers were the nicest people on the whole. many of them gave a lot of love to me but the residenclts was the lowest of the loq the nurses were regarded like gods and work really able to spend any time with anyone having to keep records and having to keep records and give out the medication several times a day the food was often pork and if you didn't like that and didn't eat much of it there was no alternative generally by that point though sometimes I just said could I have a sandwich I went down two dress sizes hungry and unable to sleep much at least I wasn't tied to the wall with a rope

It is almost two years since I left the nursing home but the psychological effects are still with me when I look at things in the house like the pictures on the walls I see that the the figure and ground are reversed

orWhile I was in the nursing home I realised that although the people there are paying for their care they are not treated as if they are employing the staff as they were it has recently occurred to me that the fact that my hair was not washed for more than four months after I went into the home may not just be laziness or carelessness letting someone who can't get out of bed become dirty either in their body or their hair or in their clothing is a way of diminishing them as people. and it's worse expression it was the way that the viewers were treated by the Nazis on their way to the concentration camps before they even got there there were no toilet facilities on the trains or in the trucks so by the time they're arrived at the camps they will be smeared with extrament etc and that was one way of making them less human to the gods under the people in charge and does it meant the easier for them to be ill treated even further as there were no more than dirty animals. pet...

It' possible that in a few years people with severe orterminal illness may be able to choose to die when they no longer feel their life is worth living because of pain disability or other factors. it's possible that nursing homes may close because people don't want to spend once or years lying in bed wearing nappers being fed my careers unable to do anything but watch the television and having f noew visitors. would you not rather die than be like that

I have been wondering whether there is any link between dementia and suicide or attempted suicide. in other word would people with dementia more likely to try to commit suicide? it's quite possible that there awareness of what is going to come might tempt some people but once as a mentor is fairly severe planning may not be very easy nor carrying out a plan. on reflection could it be the husband or wife if they have one who is more likely to commit suicide fearing the prospect on the future. perhaps this is a too rationae approach. so I am hoping to find some figures some studies of the subject. and in some countries where people are allowed to die if they feel their suffering too much mentally or physically could you ask to die if you knew that you're going to have severe dementia I think that is unlikely because from my experience with someone who is very severely affected I was 99 years old but she was able to enjoy talking to somebody if they could approach it in the righ...

Why am I thinking about original sin? No one talks about sin nowadays do though nor about evil and yet in the last 120 years we had two terrible world wars we had the Holocaust we had Stalin not to mention the other more recent tragedies The human beings can be involved in evil matters. What original sin was meant to be something that babies were born with something to do is sex being evil according to Santa Augustin of Hppo. . So what is the problem? Well I have a different explanation. Someone born into the economic system presently in Britain will be better off the many babies are in other parts of the world. Get the staff in care homes are not able to do their job with 100% satisfaction because the prime purpose of this care home is to make money for the owners and in order to make money you've got to charge a certain fee but not so high that no one will those who afford it with high enough to make a profit. Well you can do this by having the minimum number of staff and pa...

I think if it was possible that's quite a few older people in care homes or nursing homes would like to die as soon as they could. when did btell me I was a coward because I wouldn't k8ll her some of the people look as if they've died already while they're still alive it's a horrible thing to see someone like that with terribly sad eyes. but the windows don't open very far and there's very few ways in which anyone could themselves I did read about amount in Italy dying while trying to climb out of a nursing home window and lord himself to the ground with some sheets it's like being i another world where you have no autonomy really and if youask for more attention,were told that you're not the only person that they're loiking after it's very sad really the whole thing is very very sad. because what they really want they want somebody to talk to to have a conversation with they want something to happen under there she was very long for them ...

When I returned home after a few days it was wonderful when the postman came to the door or some other people came and it was my decision what to do and who to invite and then all of a sudden I thought I didn't feel like myself at all now I feel like myself again I think I would have died in the winter of 23/24 if I had still been in the home I had three various severe test infections the like of wh . I'm ich I had before.